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A Tale of Two Classrooms

April 18th, 2011

Okay, you’re going to get a little story from me - but you’ve come to expect that right?

So a couple weeks ago Jim and I got the forms for M’s next move in daycare.  His centre has multiple programs to handle kids from 6 months to before/after school care.  They cover it all.  Right now he is in the 2-3 class and is facing his move to the 3-5 group.

There are two options.  One is French/Music and the other is Montessori.  We didn’t really have a strong feeling either way, did a little looking around online to see the Montessori “philosophy” and then just figured it was a wash regardless.  It is a good centre.. whatever, right?

So I happened to chat with one of his current ladies at pick-up and she said she thought M would really like the French/Music room because of how much he likes singing songs.  And that it is a bit more open in its structure.  Understand that Mal is very quiet and reserved at school.  He is one of their favorites (I am sure all moms think this.. but I’m SURE OF IT!), he spends a whole lot of the day playing in the train/truck corner, with the painting, or reading books.  I like his current room because they have all the stations set up and then the kids pick what they want to do most of the day (with some obvious things like snack, gym/outside, walks, songs, nap/quiet time).  M has started to get little friends now - especially another little quiet guy who is new and M kinda took him under his wing.  Malcolm has been in this room since May so he’s now one of the oldest.

(I don’t tell a short story, do I?)

Cut to the chase here, Jenn.

So Jim and I agreed to tour both rooms since the coordinator and the head woman from M’s room thought Montessori would fit M best.  We get to the room, the woman starts to take us around and explain some things.  Here’s my understanding.

There are real life “work” zones.  Everything has a certain way to use it and kids are given a lesson before left on their own.  They have play mats for certain activities and up to 2 kids can play together.  It stresses individual levels, advancement, and work time.  They had great science experiments going on, the songs are based on lessons (not so much Old McDonald and his crew), and there were multiple tactile approaches to learning (see the number, feel the number, say it, see the three items next to the card for 3, etc).

The children there that day seemed happy and like they were having fun.  I asked about ‘open play time’ and got a strange answer about ‘we call it work, but there are the stations” etc.  I asked about other songs - but the songs were tied to lessons.

I loved the science area, the little stations were very interesting.. but then I asked the key question.

“Do you have any trains or trucks in here?”

“Um, no.  No we have this city section with wooden blocks and…”

“Er, okay right!  Thanks! I think we need to…” *runs out*

Jim and I got to the hallway and decided we should look at the French room.  There were dress-up stations (not part of montessori), play blocks, cars, trucks, trains, crafts, books, and pretend kitchen (the kitchen in montessori had specific things: a pouring station, a little mini paper-cutter station, a stacking cups section.. no fake food, no apron, no pots and pans).

Now, Jim and I are exceedingly polite (despite what you might have heard).  When we were in the Montessori room we asked questions, expressed interest in the little garden/science section, nodded and smiled.  Now we looked around the French room and said to the coordinator “we think M would like to play with trucks and trains.  That makes him happy right now.”

We asked why they thought he would like the Montessori room.  They thought because it was a more quiet room, he liked individual play, he was more low-key that he’d like it.  The French room was much more rambunctious.  I guess what we then struggled with was the idea that he’d like the Montessori room better or if they’d find him an easier fit.  I actually think M needs the push to be more rambunctious, to learn to deal with more loud spaces and open play activities.

It was only when we got in the car that we finally spoke frankly.  We had both had the same reaction.  The montessori room make us both depressed.  We both said we would pull Malcolm from the centre before putting him in there because his greatest joy right now is trucks and trains.  I have no desire to start in with numbers and letters.  He already does that at home with us.  I want him to play, to run, to sing Baa Baa Blacksheep, and to dress up.  I know some friends who LOVE the Montessori program so I KNOW it is a great fit for some kids, but not for what we want M to get from daycare/preschool right now.

If we still had old-school elementary schools, I would think Montessori grade 1 would be an awesome alternative when seeking specific learning environments.  But honestly I’ve seen my sister’s and mom’s ‘normal’ elementary classrooms and they are open and interactive and all those good things.  So I think if you already have a good elementary school you’ll be accessing all the good things of Montessori.

Again, I absolutely think that there are some great aspects of Montessori.  But it did not provide anything I want right now for M.  I think what was the most interesting of this was how we went from neutral to negative just through one interaction.  I think the woman who was showing us the room was very eager.  She believed in her classroom.  I thought that was great.

But she kept quoting Montessori from the early 1900s and I just thought “if it works (and I think parts of it do) then mainstream is going to take pieces from that.”  Teachers want to make their rooms better.

And, really, approaches to childhood have changed a whole lot since 1900s.  The children and childhoods that was based on have shifted and I want my philosophies to shift as well.

Finally.  Trucks.  Trains.  No brainer.СувенириКартиниИдея за подарък

Its the most wonderful time of the year (not)

April 9th, 2011

Ah yes, it has been one of those days. I have finally decided it is time to bite the bullet and get our taxes done. It is extra special because we have home business income, rental income, and we get to file both Canada and US taxes since the US taxes based on citizenship not residency. (Oh yes, please don’t ever try to tell me that the US is better about taxation - they tax contract income at a disgusting rate for non-residents and Canada doesn’t even tax their citizens if we are living somewhere else.)

We have to get the US taxes in by April 15th (hint: that ain’t happening) but Canadian taxes aren’t due until end of the month. In all, I just want to get these stupid things done to the best of my ability (and some help from some handy tax programme I buy online) so I can stop feeling so guilty. The US tax thing has really added a wrench into my usual awesome track-record for early tax completion.  We’ve had a hell of a time finding someone here to do the US taxes so now we send them down to the States (thanks to a handy WD/MdmA connection).  We hired a Canadian tax person last year to do 2008 (again, very late) but she was a gong show so last year I did them myself using her print-out of 2008 to guide me through the best I could.  I figured I missed some things, but that I’d have to be WAY off to miss out enough deductions to be worth her fee and the lack of communication that made us mental and even LATER on the US side.  

So here are a bunch of questions for you all about taxes! Wheeeee!

Do you tend to file on time?

Do you do your own taxes or pay someone?

Do you tend to get money back?

If you get money back, do you pick out some big ticket item or is it usually just enough to buy a slurpee and a pack of gum?

What are your favorite procrastination activities?

How do you store your tax info throughout the year? A drawer, a box, the Pile :P

And finally,
Tax season always makes me give resolutions (like a strange organization-guilt themed New Years Eve). I need to keep my office clean, I need to track receipts every month, I need to stop being a spaz. Does tax season do anything like this for you?

Final note: today’s tax extravaganza led to me having The Angst ™ about the office, our lack of organization, too much stuff, getting our lives in order, storage, infertility, baby stuff, skirts I keep buying but never wear.  The outcome: a tearful hand waving and gesturing conversation at Jim as he tried to write a final for his Monday night class (gist of that conversation was I’m getting rid of everything not nailed down), a slightly more normal conversation with mom about how little storage we have here and that we do quite well, and an hour spent with Malcolm helping me shred a whole blue bag full of shredding.

Love.

April 7th, 2011

Tonight when we put Malcolm to bed he was getting a snuggle from me as I picked him up (his hair smelled great as he had just gotten out of the bath) and he put his little hands on my face and gave me a pat-pat and said “I lub you” for the first time.  We tell him we love him all the time, but the closest we’ve gotten (in our estimations) is when he says he’s missed us or he is happy to see us.

Then he got his hug from Jim and a kiss and he said “I lub you” to Jim as well.  I think we almost melted. I am amazed that he’s understanding what that means - and he did.  He went in for another hug and pat and kiss.  He’s a pretty cool little guy.